I feel like I am a number to my oncologist and not a person, they can't even bother to look at my chart before they come in the room. I work in healthcare and have never been so frustrated! Anybody else feel this way?

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anonymous

Learning About Breast Cancer over 2 years ago
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  • anonymous
    Survivor since 2007

    Been there.... done that. I detested my oncologist at first. He was cold, dismissive, but I actually came to like him and his staff. I loved my surgeon, my anesthesiologist, all the techs, but at first, the oncologist was just a stinker. If you are not happy with your oncologist.... FIRE HIM/HER. It is tough enough to go through all of this and to be unhappy with the lack of personal supportive emotional care.... go somewhere else. I, too, was in the healthcare business and never forgot the patients needed emotional support as number one. I would make notes on patient's charts about their kids, hobby's, their pets, anything to help make a connection with them. It only took a couple of minutes.... I completely and totally agree with Diana. Keep us posted, Angie.

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  • anonymous
    Stage 4 Patient

    Hi Angie, I felt that way about my surgical oncologist. After my mastectomy I had problems with fluid which was not her fault but the aftercare I received was almost non-existent to make a long story short. I absolutely love my medical oncologist!!!! Unfortunately I decided to change surgical oncologists and couldn't be happier now!!!! Angie we are going through enough stress right now battling cancer. We need our drs to be on our side, caring, etc. There's never been a more important time to have a good team of doctors. And it's not too late for you to change if you need to. I'm very happy and a lot less stressed now...which is good for my healing process. Best wishes Angie!

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    • anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Correct, we need our Dr. To be on our side, caring or else better to change then you'll be relieved, even with a simple caring words from our Doctor is a big help. It happen to me after my chemotheraphy then i proceed to radiotheraphy, daily for...

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      Correct, we need our Dr. To be on our side, caring or else better to change then you'll be relieved, even with a simple caring words from our Doctor is a big help. It happen to me after my chemotheraphy then i proceed to radiotheraphy, daily for almost 6 weeks, unfortunately my medical oncologist are dealing with huge numbers of cancers patients & i felt that we are treated as numbers too, but not a sensitive human being specially during this stage, so i decided to transfer to another facilities, and i'm glad i found one, Good lu

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    • anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Correct, we need our Dr. To be on our side, caring or else better to change then you'll be relieved, even with a simple caring words from our Doctor is a big help. It happen to me after my chemotheraphy then i proceed to radiotheraphy, daily for...

      see more

      Correct, we need our Dr. To be on our side, caring or else better to change then you'll be relieved, even with a simple caring words from our Doctor is a big help. It happen to me after my chemotheraphy then i proceed to radiotheraphy, daily for almost 6 weeks, unfortunately my medical oncologist are dealing with huge numbers of cancers patients & i felt that we are treated as numbers too, but not a sensitive human being specially during this stage, so i decided to transfer to another facilities, and i'm glad i found one, Good luck

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  • anonymous
    Survivor since 2011

    Yes, which is why I found a new oncologist who sat down at eye level when he spoke to me (and he is the chief medical officer at the cancer center), he asked me genuine questions, he let me change back into my clothes after exam rather than sit in counter in Johnny like a little kid. Made a HUGE difference. 2nd opinion is worth it

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  • anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer

    I am going for a second opinion later this month. It is just so frustrating, my radiation oncologist was shocked at my final appt to find out I had been getting Taxol weekly with my radiation. We did discuss at my first appt, reason she did 7 weeks. She also would give me nothing for my burn except told me to tape a telfa to it. My oncologist who sent me to radiation didn't know I was doing radiation at my halfway point, nor did he remember he had given me script for tamoxifen and had me start after chemo finished. This is my life and I would like to feel confident they have my best interest in mind and actually know who I am. Ugh!

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