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How do I tell my kids?
Asked by Caroline Foster Caubet
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Caroline Foster Caubet
Survivor since 1996
When I was diagnosed with breast cancer, my daughters were between 16 and 6. What could they hear? Obviously the message could not be the same for each one of them. I spoke to each one individually, without pronouncing the word "cancer". Their questions did come with time and I answered...
1 comment 5When I was diagnosed with breast cancer, my daughters were between 16 and 6. What could they hear? Obviously the message could not be the same for each one of them. I spoke to each one individually, without pronouncing the word "cancer". Their questions did come with time and I answered with simple words. What I wanted them to understand was that I was very sick, that I was fighting hard and that there was a pretty good chance that I would win the battle. I tried to give a message of hope. 15 years later, we talk about it and they say they appreciated understanding progressively.
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Heather Levering
Survivor since 2010
When i was diagnosed my 2 girls were 8 and 9. My first thought was not to tell them, but i couldnt hide losing my hair and all the doctor appointments. I made the decision to be open and honest with them and they handled it extremly well.
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Is there a spot in your site for mothers who lost her daughter to breast cancer?
Asked by anonymous
Learning About Breast Cancer-
Catherine Nodurft
Family Member or Loved One
So sorry about your daughter! I would recommend you visit our online support community at www.MyNBCF.org, it is an amazing support community of breast cancer survivors, friends and family.
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Catherine Nodurft
Family Member or Loved One
Also, we have a list of support resources at http://breastcan.cr/fZQzP6.
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My grandmother and sister had breast cancer. What kind of cancer is hereditary?
Asked by Valerie Rotella
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Janelle Strunk
Family Member or Loved One
Before you decide that cancer runs in your family, first gather some information. For each case of cancer, look at:
Who is affected? How are we related?
What type of cancer is it? Is it rare?
How old was this relative when they were diagnosed?
Did this person get more than one...1 comment 1Before you decide that cancer runs in your family, first gather some information. For each case of cancer, look at:
Who is affected? How are we related?
What type of cancer is it? Is it rare?
How old was this relative when they were diagnosed?
Did this person get more than one type of cancer?
Did they smoke?Cancer in a close relative, like a parent or sibling (brother or sister), is more cause for concern than cancer in a more distant relative. Even if the cancer was from a gene mutation, the chance of it passing on to you gets lower with more distant relatives.
Breast cancer is a cancer that can be hereditary. A family history of breast cancer does put you at increased risk for breast cancer. A woman who has a first-degree relative (such as a mother, sister, or daughter) with breast cancer is about twice as likely to develop breast cancer as a woman without a family history of this cancer. Still, most cases of breast cancer, even those in close relatives, are not part of a family cancer syndrome caused by an inherited gene mutation.
The chance that someone has an inherited form of breast cancer is higher the younger they are when they get the cancer and the more relatives they have with the disease. Inherited breast cancer can be caused by several different genes, but the most common are BRCA1 and BRCA2. Inherited mutations in these genes cause hereditary breast and ovarian cancer syndrome (HBOC). Along with breast and ovarian cancer, this syndrome can also lead to male breast cancer, pancreatic cancer, prostate cancer, as well as some others. This syndrome is more common in women of Ashkenazi descent than it is in the general U.S. population.
This is why it is so important for you to have an early detection plan. You can creaste a plan at www.earlydetectionplan.org. This plan takes into account your risk profile and age. Of course, if you notice any changes in your breasts, you should consult your physician.
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Should you tell your 10 year old daughter if you've been diagnosed with stage 0 (DCIS) breast cancer?
Asked by Nikol Vega
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Gail Horton
Learning About Breast Cancer
Yes, let her be a part of your journey. It will build your relationship and she will grow up understanding why early detection is so important.
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Misty Wells
Learning About Breast Cancer
Yes you should... my 10
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Both my aunts had breast cancer - what're my chances of getting breast cancer?
Asked by Jessica Mcconnaughy
Learning About Breast Cancer-
Tasha Wainstein
Learning About Breast Cancer
You should consider genetic counselling to get an accurate assessment of your risks of developing breast cancer especially if your family members were diagnosed with breast cancer at younger ages (less than 50 years).
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Jessica Mcconnaughy
Learning About Breast Cancer
Ok thank you
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My mother recently had breast cancer, am I at risk also?
Asked by renee lorenz
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Ryan Nez
Learning About Breast Cancer
Probably not it doesn't hurt to get checked. My mon is suffering from a rare form of breast cancer called HR2
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Diane Lewey
Learning About Breast Cancer
Has your mother been tested BRAC1 and BRAC2 mutation? The BRAC 1
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What is the risk of me developing breast cancer if my mom had it twice?
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Amanda Metivier
Learning About Breast Cancer
You both should be tested for the Brca gene. Your chances are much higher if it's genetic. If not it's the same as anyone else.
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Sarah Adams
Survivor since 2010
I also suggest looking into genetic testing. There are other factors to consider, as well. Such as your Mother's age when she was first diagnosed & what type of cancer she had. If she was younger than 40 and/or had triple negative breast cancer, I HIGHLY recommend getting the BRCA test. And...
Comment 1I also suggest looking into genetic testing. There are other factors to consider, as well. Such as your Mother's age when she was first diagnosed & what type of cancer she had. If she was younger than 40 and/or had triple negative breast cancer, I HIGHLY recommend getting the BRCA test. And because of your mother's diagnoses, your insurance should approve the testing. Especially if anyone else on your mother's side of the family have had breast or ovarian cancer. Good luck!
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Any ideas on how to tell my 10 year old daughter I have breast cancer?
Asked by Nikol Vega
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Surf Momma
Learning About Breast Cancer
I have a 10 year old and year old. I just told both kids one month ago. I told them when I knew I would not be hysterical about it. It is all in your delivery. My kids have been fine.
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Elizabeth Dycus
Learning About Breast Cancer
Don't worry too much. When I was about eight years old, I was informed that my grandmother has breast cancer. I didn't freak out, so much as I was really curious. Now that I am getting older, though, I seem to be becoming more and more worried. But I think that if you tell her calmly, and you...
Comment 0Don't worry too much. When I was about eight years old, I was informed that my grandmother has breast cancer. I didn't freak out, so much as I was really curious. Now that I am getting older, though, I seem to be becoming more and more worried. But I think that if you tell her calmly, and you don't show that you're scared, she won't do anything rash. You should sit her down, explain to her what breast cancer is, tell her everything you know about it, and then you should let her know that you have it. But don't worry, she is your daughter, she will love you no matter what happens. Or if you are still worried, maybe have someone else tell her. But, again, don't worry too much. Be strong, be informing, and don't get emotional. Your daughter loves you, and there is nothing to worry about. Good luck! You will be in my prayers. And don't forget to raise awareness as much as possible! :) <3
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How do I try to cheer my mom up during treatment? What can I do to make her feel better?
Asked by Ally Chapis
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Lori A
Learning About Breast Cancer
My mom is still going through her treatments and I did her wash, made food and she stayed with me after her surgery.
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Sarah Adams
Survivor since 2010
I agree with the above...just being there is most important. I have been with both a parent & a sibling during a treatment & right now I am helping my best friend through it. When I am with her (usually the week following treatment, when things are at their worst), I clean the litter box, do the...
Comment 1I agree with the above...just being there is most important. I have been with both a parent & a sibling during a treatment & right now I am helping my best friend through it. When I am with her (usually the week following treatment, when things are at their worst), I clean the litter box, do the dishes, keep her paperwork organized, keep myself educated on her medications so I know what to expect, keep a log of when she has taken medication and when she has eaten (this helps to know when she can take another dose & whatnot), I act as sort of an eager slave to get her water or food or whatever she might want, & I try to make her laugh. I also let her cry & complain without always trying to cheer her up. She needs to get that sadness/pain/frustration out & I don't want her to feel she can't. I validate her feelings & then offer whatever love & support I can. All of this is also a huge help to her fiancé (if your father is also in the house). When he comes home from work, I encourage him to take some time to himself before taking over caring for my friend. And I know helping out around the house really helps relieve stress for him. He also reads to her every night. Which is something anyone can do.
All of the answers given cover it...just being there makes a huge difference. But I thought I'd offer some ideas of what I've done. :-) My best to you & your family.
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My mom was recently told she was in stage 2 of breast cancer - I'm really scared and want to know how bad is stage 2?
Asked by Giselle dominguez
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Janice Baker
Learning About Breast Cancer
Its going to be okay. I am a survivor that was diagnosed with stage 3c. I have completed surgery, chemo and radiation. My cancer also went into my lymph nodes. I'm praying for you and your mom.
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Giselle dominguez
Family Member or Loved One
Thank you so much you going thru that I know u are a very strong women .... Ive been trying to spend so much time with my mom and just trying to make smile because she is really depressed because I'm 10 weeks pregnant and she feels like she isn't enjoying my pregnancy but I don't care I just want...
Comment 1Thank you so much you going thru that I know u are a very strong women .... Ive been trying to spend so much time with my mom and just trying to make smile because she is really depressed because I'm 10 weeks pregnant and she feels like she isn't enjoying my pregnancy but I don't care I just want everything to be okay with her ...
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